HAPPINESS: Step into who you are! Viola Davis-Oscar Nominee


By Aliker David Martin

It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.  ~Agnes Repplier

“Be who you are” These were the words of Viola David’s husband. Viola was the best picture nominee “The Help” and best actress nominee at the Oscars 2012 Award Ceremony. To get nominated in any Oscar Awards is a great accomplishment in the movie industry. Other than the beauty and glamour of the Oscars, Viola’s perspective of self was outstanding. Whoever walked on the red carpet at the Oscars exuded excellence self but Viola decided to rock the occasion in her natural cropped hairstyle.

In an interview Viola said,” I felt like this project forced me to step into who I was, the choice of playing a maid in 1963,with a broken dialect and having to defend my choice”. Life indeed is a theatre, we find ourselves playing different roles before our audiences. The lesson from Viola is to be who you are. Growing up in Africa, we tried to be anything we watched on television. The same applies to the young people today. They try to be what they are not hence remaining mediocre. I am sure if Michael Jordan tried to be Michael Jackson, he would have failed miserably. But he chose to be himself. We are all unique in different ways, so strive to be the best that you can be and not the best you can be of another person.

Ziggy Marley, the son of legendary Bob Marley sung a song True To Myself .He encourages us to do what we feel and not fool ourselves because he can’t make us happy if he is not happy. Therefore, be yourself and when you find happiness, you will make others happy. Stars like Michael Jordan, Michael Jackson and Viola Davis were true to themselves and found happiness before they could make us Happy.

 

 

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HAPPINESS: You can be the Jeremy Lin of your life’s goal


By Aliker David Martin

Adversity is like a strong wind.  It tears away from us all but the things that cannot be torn, so that we see ourselves as we really are.  ~Arthur Golden, Memoirs of a Geisha

International news media is awash about the new kid on the block Jeremy Lin. Jeremy is the latest New York Knicks basketball scoring sensation. He is the first AsianAmerican to play in the NBA and gain such legendary prominence. He has overcome the Asian can’t play in the NBA stereotype. Jeremy has been an underdog until this season. He admits he had ever thought of giving up his NBA dreams.

Jeremy says there were nights last year when he was reduced to tears but complements kept him going. What is striking about Jeremy’s recollection is that, he felt hurt that despite this adversities in his first year at the NBA,” he felt he had the ability to do it”. This is a statement of a passionate player who believes in the world of possibilities. Jeremy prefers to associate closely with his faith and consider his current success to being blessed. Moments after they defeated the Nets on February 4th, he called his pastor of ten years.

In life we all face adversities in pursuit of our life’s goal. Some people quit in the face of adversity. Others persist and focus on small happiness boosters like the complements from the positive minded people who wish us well. When the going gets tough, focus on the small things that allows you to hang in there. It could be a complement or your faith in divine providence. But most importantly you need Jeremy’s passion. In the face of adversity remain passionate about your dream.  Passion resonates to the depth of our soul and gives us the reason to be optimistic when things are not going well. Just like the African proverb, which goes ”smooth seas don’t make skillful sailors”. Winners never quit and quitters never win. So hang in there and believe in your ability to make it. Passion and focus will make you the Jeremy Lin of your life’s goal.

HAPPINESS: Celebrating Valentine’s Day Online


By Aliker David Martin
Those who bring sunshine into the life of others cannot keep it from themselves- J. M. Barrie, nineteenth century Scottish novelist

In 496 AD, Pope Gelasius established February 14th as a holiday in honor of Saint Valentine in the Roman calendar. Pope Paul VI later deleted it in 1969. I learnt about Valentine day later in life as a day lovers display their affection for each other by buying flowers.
This year just like last year, I am celebrating the day away from my wife. Because of time deference, they will reach Valentines Day while we are still on the eve of the day. So we agreed on an online date as an expression of our love. My most humorous moment was when she reminded me of our first valentine date. I got pissed off because she would not dress up in valentine colors. It was not our style and tradition. My wife is an astute realist, she felt awkward and weird practicing a tradition that she didn’t believe in. I then told her how stressed and ridiculous I felt for the first time when I went to buy flowers. The flowers were not only expensive but also I chickened out when I realized I had to hold the flowers in public; use public means of transport and meet her among her friends. I knew this would generate a lot of negative talk about imitating western lifestyle and our artificial love. She laughed so hard into tears because I had not told her my experience. We certainly agreed this was not our style; we could still express our affection for each other daily like sharing jokes and pictures of our children, caring for each others feelings and continuously professing our love for each other without having to wait for Valentines day and most importantly respecting each other by committing ourselves never to indulge in acts that would bring to disrepute our family pride and dignity.
At the end of the day, I realized I was so happy yet I could not point out particularly why I was happy the whole day. It downed on me how much we were in love with each other and I just had a good conversation with a good friend-my wife. Oliver Wendall Holmes says, “Love is the master key that opens the gate of Happiness”. Therefore,make every day a Valentine’s Day in your relationship. Make it a habit to bring sunshine into someones life and you bring it unto yourself.

HAPPINESS: Six more award nominations for my Blog


In 2011, I started The Happiness Blog to inspire and bring happiness to as many people as I could online. Just like the saying,”you get what you give” I didn’t know it would bring me this joy. Little did  I know it will improve my writing skills. I also didn’t know I have a talent that could gain acknowledgment and recognition from different distinguished people from different continents.Sarah Ban Breathnach once said,”Real life isn’t always going to be perfect or go our way, but the recurring acknowledgement of what is working can help us not only survive but surmount our difficulties”. Nothing has brought me more happiness than blogging in many months. On this note, I would like to humbly accept this nominations and thank authors of the following blogs:

Jennifer Vidal  http://misformarriageandmotherhood.wordpress.com/about/

Andrea http://andreacarbax.wordpress.com/about/

Jonathan http://237blessed.wordpress.com/about/

Connie Wayne http://ahopefortoday.com/about-m/

Amira   http://mindblur.wordpress.com/about-2/

This outstanding bloggers inspired me to realize my potential, they could inspire you too. If you believe in the power of words to change lives,please visit their blog and see why they are unique and spectacularly a sensation. That click could change your life.

THE GENUINE BLOGGER AWARDS

Two bloggers nominated me for this award. Jennifer and Andrea nominated me for the this award. Honestly, I follow Jennifers blog religiously. I don’t only follow her because of her religious content but because she inspires me every other day to be a better family man. She also writes from the heart. Andrea has a very artistic nature of presenting her ideas. Her writing style is so poetic and appealing to me for the time I have followed her blog.

Since there seem to be no procedure to follow to nominate any one, I would like to nominate:

http://willofheart.wordpress.com/

http://granbee.wordpress.com/

LIEBSTER BLOG AWARD

At this point it’s not surprising that I am one of Jennifers’ top four bloggers. That’s why she has also nominated me for this Liebster Blog Award.

I am therefore not going to get tired of appreciating her for being such a great fan of my writing and a great friend too. The small things that one does in one’s life gets a long way in making them a better person but most important is that it takes you further in life.

The rules of this award are:

1. Thank the giver and link back to the blogger who gave it to you.
2. Reveal your top five picks and let them know by leaving a comment on their blog.
3. Copy and paste the award on your blog.
4. Hope that the people you’ve sent the award to forward it to their five favorite bloggers and keep it going!

MY NOMINATIONS

As expected of this nominations, I have the  honor to nominate five (5) out standing bloggers to this Award. There is no doubt that I have hundreds of bloggers I admire,however I’m obliged to follow the Awards rules.My Awards go to; I can hear drum-rolls  🙂

http://workthedream.wordpress.com/

http://fivereflections.wordpress.com/

http://danieladamian.wordpress.com/

http://twopartswhimsicalonepartpeculiar.wordpress.com/

http://kweschn.wordpress.com/

THE KING OF KINGS AWARD

To be a king is an expression of the highest regard a blogger can have of you. I do hope this blog will inspire me to have a good Kings generosity to give and not expect back the wisdom of Happiness. While this award to me is for my passion in promoting the Kingdom of God, I believe there are many bloggers I have encountered online who share my values and appreciation of life. I will therefore nominate bloggers whose message has inspired me in my spiritual journey and life.

http://eof737.wordpress.com/

http://insidethemindofisadora.wordpress.com/

http://www.amberrisme.com/

http://mmejocelyne.wordpress.com/

http://fourbluehills.com/

With great pleasure, these are my nominations for King of Kings Award. i do hope that visiting their blogs inspires you  and makes you a better person.

HOPE UNITES GLOBALLY AWARD

http://hopesfortoday.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/hug-award1.png.

http://ahopefortoday.com/2012/01/14/hope-unites-globally-hug-award-guidelines/.

Connie Wayne is my latest blogging Hero. I am so much taken up by her works that if she had not been the author of this award, I would gladly nominate her to this award. I certainly find my self in the highest happiness index to realize that I am among the people she has nominated after creating this Award. This is a very special blog award with a more comprehensive regulation for one to take part in the nomination awards.

I will therefore nominate one special blogger. I have always turned to her writing in my spiritual journey.Her writing keeps me much stronger in faith. God is Good is a blog that gives me a clearer purpose in life and a better understanding of who I am.

http://godtestimonies.wordpress.com/about/

Conclusively, this has been a long blog post. I however would like to thank every one who signed up to receive my blog post every time I make a post. We are in hundreds and more keep signing up daily. It’s no more about me and my passion for happiness. It’s about our desire to find and share happiness.This year our dream is to turn this ideas to practical aspects of bringing happiness to those who need it. I will be grateful to receive any ideas of practicing or bringing happiness to every one’s life.Thank you so much.