HAPPINESS: You are better than the Bully

By Aliker David Martin

“Some people won’t be happy until they’ve pushed you to the ground. What you have to do is have the courage to stand your ground and not give them the time of day. Hold on to your power and never give it away.” Donna Schoenrock

Stop Bullying


As students we have all encountered bullies. Bullying occurs when there is an imbalance of power. This week I came across an article about the “Harvard Girl” by journalist Esmeralda Bermudez of the Los Angeles Times. The article titled, From homelessness to Harvard: graduate sets sight on success featured in the Education Column of Seattle Times in 2009.

The article is about how Khadijah Williams overcame homelessness and bullying to become a graduate of Harvard. Williams moved from one shelter to another and attended twelve schools in twelve years. She lived out on garbage bags among pimps and prostitutes.

In her college essay she referred to being bullied because she was poor, different and read so much. While at school she was the outsider, at the shelter she was equally bullied. “You ain’t college bound” the pimps would bark at her.  Despite all this adversities, she strengthened herself by believing in the power of her test grades more than the perceived power of the pimps and school bullies. Like Tiffany Loren says,” no matter what kind of challenge lies before you, if somebody believes in you and you believe in your dream, it can happen”. Williams believed in her mentors and teachers. She set her sight on success.

In conclusion, believe that you are better than your bullies. Dorothea Brande says, “act boldly and unseen forces will come to your aid”. Don’t allow bullies to dominate you.


26 comments on “HAPPINESS: You are better than the Bully

  1. lorrelee1970 says:

    I saw the movie about her story. Wonderful.

  2. Love the post here, you made some good points. We got to let people bring us down. So many love to bring another person down because they not happy with they left. God Bless 🙂

    • gethappy says:

      Hey Poeticjourney,
      Nice hearing from you again.There are people who believe to climb the ladders of success,it has to be other peoples toes.We need to take courage and stand up to all bullies in our lives. God bless my friend 🙂

  3. willofheart says:

    this post is great, bullying happens everywhere, the parents should have a constant communication with there children to avoid with this kind of behavior for there children…

    • gethappy says:

      So true, actually in my research I found out that fewer teachers get to know as compared to parents. So schools should involve parents in fighting against this vice.Thanks my friend

  4. dogear6 says:

    My daughter got bullied because of her good grades. The difference was she had a mother who had been bullied and taught her how to fight back.

    Interestingly, it escalated the next year and I went after the school. The boys were kicked out at the end of the school year, but it was a long year before that happened. My daughter had toughened up by then and so had her friends. She seldom backed down from a fight after that.

    • gethappy says:

      Awesome testimony. I am anxious to know what you told your daughter and how you told her to fight back.Bullying really affects kids in school. Am glad she developed the courage to stand up to them. Inspiration from a strong mother 🙂

  5. granbee says:

    gethappy, my daughter is a professor at NYU (cross-schedule with City College, I THINK!) and teaches these types of brilliant but disadvantaged students, many survivors of violence (some actual political refugees). As you can imagine, I am MORE than proud of her! YOU would know only too well about the challenges such students face! Hooray for you and hooray for Kadijah! Love you both! Praying for you both!

    • gethappy says:

      Wow thats great, I picked interest in bullying because its here that I realiZed what was normal in African Schools is such a sensitive issue here.This made me reflect on its impact on me and how i would not love my children to ever be bullied.Thanks for the complements. God Bless

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  7. willowdot21 says:

    Hello,Great post!
    I hate bulling of any sort, In the school, home, workplace, socially, on the phone on the internet!! Sometimes you just cannot get away from bullying no escape imagine. People say if the bullying is at school tell the teachers, work tell personal resources, this can make it all much worse. Stand up to them, don’t answer your phone change your number change your email…… leave your partner tell social services about abusive family members sometimes it just does not work!
    I was bullied at school by teachers and staff, I was bullied so badly at one job and pushed into being sacked because of my religion. I have been bullied socially, I was not bullied by my mum and dad or my siblings though a couple try it on even now!! d*_~b. this is a poem I wrote about being bullied at school http://willowdot21.wordpress.com/2011/09/09/its-nothing-less-than-abuse/ I do not know the answers, I really wish I did. Think before you rush into anything see further that the immediate. Be happy smile even when you do not want too , it foils some of the bullies because they think they are not getting through to you. I cannot give any advice as all situations are different but I can say find a friend/partner sibling you can trust and confide in them, sometimes being able to un-load is very important.
    There must of been something about me that makes me susceptible and I guess I must attract bullies but I do not care bullies are wrong they are mean and they will get their come-up-pence one day !!! excuse me for rambling on!

    • gethappy says:

      Thanks for sharing with me your poem and above all for testifying to your experience in bullying.We should all stand up against bullying. Thanks my friend, I always enjoy reading your feedback

  8. I read about her too. Inspirational!

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  11. It’s hard to find knowledgeable people on this topic, but you sound like you know what you’re talking about! Thanks

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