Happiness: Rise and Shine


The Occupy Wall Street Movement has taught me more about the many heart breaks we get in life.It could be losing to love, it could be losing a job and it could losing property. In 1893 G. B. Shaw asserted that,“people are always blaming their circumstance for what they are.I don’t believe in circumstances.The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them,make them”.The question of perseverance is a personal commitment and dedication to overcome adversity.No body does it better than yourself. Maya Angelou, an American author and poet; awarded over 30 honorary degrees and nominated for the Pulitzer Prize award recited this poem on And Still I Rise.Please enjoy; get inspired and motivated to change the circumstances around you for yourself.

Happiness: How can I find Happiness?


This morning is special to any new blogger like me.There are many people outside there who think they are so busy to have time to blog. Others think they are not smart enough to confidently share their ideas online. But most important is the question,why should I be a blogger. The answer is simple; if you are searching for happiness,one of the secrets of happiness is developing a passion and pursuing it. T. Alan Amstrong once said,“if there is no passion in your life,then have you really lived? Find your passion,whatever it might be.Become it and let it become you and you will find great things happened for you, to you and because of you. After graduate school as an immigrant, I contemplated what next, I chose to occupy myself sharing my experiences of coming to America.This led me to the life of a blogger.Here, I found Happiness and a vibrant community to relate with online.This is how blogging can bring you happiness.This blog post brought me utmost joy than I have received in a while. I encourage you to begin blogging NOW

Happy Thoughts Keep the Wolf at Bay: Thanks, Aliker

David Martin

November 28, 2011

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I got a very nice gift recently from Aliker David Martin– a peek into his views on happiness. You can read a great post of his on his site The Happiness Nest at linkhttps://happinessnest.wordpress.com/2011/11/16/happiness-change-the-way-you-think/. He’s a motivational speaker, university educated in San Diego, though clearly he has an international home. His post speaks to the hidden opportunities there are in learning about what thoughts are and what they can and cannot do, and how they can keep the wolf of fear at bay.

Aliker’s post reminds me of the power our thoughts have on our moods and our behavior. It reminds me of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), which can be a powerful, effective tool for treating psychiatric disorders, such as major depression. But you don’t have to be diagnosed with a mental illness to make use of the skills you can learn from CBT. Although the efficacy of web-based versions of CBT seem to be more durable if there is a real live therapist on the other end of the ethernet cable, you can still learn a lot about recognizing negative thoughts, accepting them as a part of you, seeing the connection between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors (health and unhealthy)…and choosing to change when you’re ready.

Aliker’s words got me thinking about what happiness means to me. As the Geezer gets older, happiness means being thankful for what others have done to enrich my life, reminding me what I might be on earth for…giving something back in return.

I am reminded of  “Up”, a favorite movie my wife and I occasionally still watch. Ellie’s theme is a happy-sounding little tune, yet the video shows both the joy and sadness Carl and Ellie have in their life until she dies. How Carl literally carries his sorrow and how he eventually rediscovers what happiness really means to him is symbolized in a very special way in the film. Letting go of what we treasure most and reinvesting our devotion through bonding with those who need us most could be the hardest (yet most rewarding) lesson in life to learn.

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About Jim Amos

Dr. James J. Amos is Clinical Professor of Psychiatry in the UI Carver College of Medicine at The University of Iowa in Iowa City, Iowa. Dr. Amos received a B. S. degree in Distributed Studies (Zoology, Chemistry, and Microbiology) in 1985 from Iowa State University and an M.D. from The University of Iowa in Iowa City, Iowa in 1992. He completed his psychiatry residency, including a year as Chief Resident, in 1996 at the Department of Psychiatry at The University of Iowa. He has co-edited a practical book about consultation psychiatry with Dr. Robert G. Robinson entitled Psychosomatic Medicine: An Introduction to Consultation-Liaison Psychiatry. As a clinician educator, among Dr. Amos’s most treasured achievements is the Leonard Tow Humanism in Medicine Award.

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By Aliker David Martin

November 25th, 2011

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”
― 
Dalai Lama XIV

“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” ― Abraham Lincoln

This week, I spent time with a few kids from some of the riches and most affluent families in California. My focus was to find out how different I was compared to them. Suddenly, an idea came in mind; can money buy happiness? Instantly, a friend came in mind. When I met him over a decade ago, he had a small beautiful family. He had enough not to struggle with the basics of life. He had around him friends from all walks of life. Today, he is by any global stands a wealthy man. He spends a lot of time in his business to make more money. He has little time for family and only hangs out with only business friends. Unfortunately, he is less happy. So while I met these folks from some of the riches and most affluent families, I asked my self; can money buy happiness? This is what came to mind.

It depends on how you spend your money. If you spend money buying illegal drugs, in search for sex and alcoholism; your immoral ways will catch-up with you. There is always a price for all our actions. They either reward us or punish us for our conduct.

Secondly, it depends on the kind of person you are. Different people respond differently in the presence of money. You can spend money to buy pleasure and be happy. My friend had greed and spent more time making more money and forgot that its friends and family that brought him happiness.

Finally, it depends on how much money you have relative to the people around you and relative to your experience. Before meeting these folks from affluent families, I felt happy and fine with what I have and who I was but after meeting them I felt different noticing how much I needed and how much I didn’t have.

HAPPINESS: Can money buy happiness?


By Aliker David Martin

November 25th, 2011

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”
― 
Dalai Lama XIV

“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” ― Abraham Lincoln

This week, I spent time with a few kids from some of the riches and most affluent families in California. My focus was to find out how different I was compared to them. Suddenly, an idea came in mind; can money buy happiness? Instantly, a friend came in mind. When I met him over a decade ago, he had a small beautiful family. He had enough not to struggle with the basics of life. He had around him friends from all walks of life. Today, he is by any global stands a wealthy man. He spends a lot of time in his business to make more money. He has little time for family and only hangs out with only business friends. Unfortunately, he is less happy. So while I met these folks from some of the riches and most affluent families, I asked my self; can money buy happiness? This is what came to mind.

It depends on how you spend your money. If you spend money buying illegal drugs, in search for sex and alcoholism; your immoral ways will catch-up with you. There is always a price for all our actions. They either reward us or punish us for our conduct.

Secondly, it depends on the kind of person you are. Different people respond differently in the presence of money. You can spend money to buy pleasure and be happy. My friend had greed and spent more time making more money and forgot that its friends and family that brought him happiness.

Finally, it depends on how much money you have relative to the people around you and relative to your experience. Before meeting these folks from affluent families, I felt happy and fine with what I have and who I was but after meeting them I felt different noticing how much I needed and how much I didn’t have.