HAPPINESS: Over come the Fear of Failure in Life


I have come to believe that all my past failures and frustrations were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy. -Tony Robins

I have just completed reading Pat Groce’s book, I feel great and you will too! In 1996 Pat bought the NBA team Philadelphia 76ers. Pat’s story is about the courage to face failure over and over again but still hold the passion to persist. He is a pioneer in the sports physical therapy industry. As a therapist, Pat kept asking to be employed as a Physical therapist for NBA clubs but he was always denied. Pat went from being in the training room to the boardroom in one of the most unlikely stories in sports history. His book reminded me of a high school friend. My friend Messiah (not real name) had a humble beginning in life. In the early years of high school he fell in love with one of the most beautiful girls in a neighboring school. His proposal was clearly and completely rejected. While in A’ level (last two years before college), by coincidence they shared the same school, Messiah was fortunate to meet his childhood girl of his dreams at University. Messiah again made her know he would stop at nothing to ask for her hands in marriage. Messiah’s persistence paid off. Meghan (not real name) finally accepted to marry Messiah. Most of Messiah’s high school friends broke the hearts of their high school girl friends. CONTINUE

HAPPINESS: You can be the Jeremy Lin of your life’s goal


By Aliker David Martin

Adversity is like a strong wind.  It tears away from us all but the things that cannot be torn, so that we see ourselves as we really are.  ~Arthur Golden, Memoirs of a Geisha

International news media is awash about the new kid on the block Jeremy Lin. Jeremy is the latest New York Knicks basketball scoring sensation. He is the first AsianAmerican to play in the NBA and gain such legendary prominence. He has overcome the Asian can’t play in the NBA stereotype. Jeremy has been an underdog until this season. He admits he had ever thought of giving up his NBA dreams.

Jeremy says there were nights last year when he was reduced to tears but complements kept him going. What is striking about Jeremy’s recollection is that, he felt hurt that despite this adversities in his first year at the NBA,” he felt he had the ability to do it”. This is a statement of a passionate player who believes in the world of possibilities. Jeremy prefers to associate closely with his faith and consider his current success to being blessed. Moments after they defeated the Nets on February 4th, he called his pastor of ten years.

In life we all face adversities in pursuit of our life’s goal. Some people quit in the face of adversity. Others persist and focus on small happiness boosters like the complements from the positive minded people who wish us well. When the going gets tough, focus on the small things that allows you to hang in there. It could be a complement or your faith in divine providence. But most importantly you need Jeremy’s passion. In the face of adversity remain passionate about your dream.  Passion resonates to the depth of our soul and gives us the reason to be optimistic when things are not going well. Just like the African proverb, which goes ”smooth seas don’t make skillful sailors”. Winners never quit and quitters never win. So hang in there and believe in your ability to make it. Passion and focus will make you the Jeremy Lin of your life’s goal.