Versatile Blogger Awards


Thank you bloggers for both nominations in the Versatile Blogger Awards.Particularly, I would like to appreciate the kind generosity of;

http://buildingbridgesoverswans.wordpress.com/

http://reviewingshelf.wordpress.com/

In accepting this awards, I am obligated to;

  1. Thank the Award giver and link back to them in my blog post
  2. Share seven things about myself
  3. Pass this award along to recently discovered logs you enjoy reading
  4. Contact your chosen bloggers to let them know about the award and post the award picture

I would like to thank the award givers for acknowledging my blog.This definitely brings me joy and Happiness that I write about and so passionate about. It’s a very kind and generous offer that I humbly accept from two prominent and distinguished bloggers.

Seven things about my self:

  1. I am not a virgin
  2. I have a pot Belly but I am not fat and I love it
  3. I am a proud practicing christian(Catholic)
  4. My best night time is best spent at the bar with loud music but I am not an alcoholic but a “night bird”
  5. I am a Rotarian and also attend Pearl Habor Toastmasters club
  6. I am a social media addict
  7. I am a very jolly happy person who enjoys making others happy

I am awarding the Versatile Bloggers award to friends who have rocked my world lately.While hundreds of blog have inspired me lately, I award only allows 15 bloggers.

  1. http://jajsamos.wordpress.com/
  2. http://lscotthoughts.com/
  3. http://godtestimonies.wordpress.com/
  4. http://mochola.wordpress.com/
  5. http://jessiejeanine.com/
  6. http://willofheart.wordpress.com/
  7. http://granbee.wordpress.com/
  8. http://worshipandswag.wordpress.com/
  9. http://iamforchange.wordpress.com/
  10. http://misformarriageandmotherhood.wordpress.com/
  11. http://justsimplyinlove.wordpress.com/
  12. http://joypassiondesire.wordpress.com/
  13. http://toughmindedoptimism.wordpress.com/
  14. http://auroramorealist.wordpress.com/
  15. http://writersfield.wordpress.com/

Happiness: Service above self


This article inspired me on service above self.Its hares my common theme on the search for happiness through service to those in need. It demonstrates that the real happy people are those serving others. Its about a sense of purpose and living a life with a mission much more than our life’s treasures.The article is by Neal from Star Tribune in Minnesota.

 A driven executive found her next purpose

I need to get flies off the face of that girl

Article by: NEAL  St. Thomas of Star Tribune

Lori Pappas developed a knack for automating offices. In 1976, Olivetti hired Pappas as one of its first female sales reps. By 1980, the now-divorced single mother was supporting her kids selling Sperry Univac mainframes to manufacturers.

She launched her own software company in 1983 — JobBoss Software — serving small manufacturers and machine shops. The company made the Inc. 500 list of fast-growing private companies in 1991.

Pappas was named the Minnesota High Tech Association’s Entrepreneur of the Year among small enterprises in 1998. A year later, Pappas, then 50, sold her 100-plus employee business for $18.4 million in cash and stock to a British company. She netted several million from the transaction.

“The business had defined me,” Pappas, 62, recalled. “I was burned out and wanted to do something else.”

She bought a $1 million house on Seattle’s Puget Sound, took up golf, fancy dinner parties and exotic travel. On the outside, she appeared successful and happy. Inside she was “disconnected and empty.”

She had lost her purpose.

During several trips to Africa, she became fascinated by the indigenous people of Namibia, Angola, Niger and Ethiopia. The tribal people lived in huts and struggled to find food and water amid crop-killing droughts.

“Yet, they experience true joy with each other and their community,” Pappas observed. One day in 2006, a young girl in Niger with flies in her eyes and sores on her face approached Pappas to ask for a water bottle.

Pappas had found her next purpose. “This time it was to help others,” recalled Pappas.

Once again the driven executive, Pappas spent more than $300,000 researching, interviewing experts and studying development aid in sub-Saharan Africa. In 2008 she launched nonprofit Global Team for Local Initiatives (www.gtli.us).

“I realized that I could use my business and networking skills to help indigenous people help themselves to a healthier, better life,” Pappas said. “I needed to get the flies off the face of that girl.”

Today, the Puget Sound house is for sale and Pappas has moved to Northfield, Minn., closer to her children and grandchildren. She struck a strategic relationship with retired Navy Adm. William Fallon. He introduced her to influential leaders at development agencies such as CARE and Save the Children.

Her Global Team, which employs 25 Ethiopians, is focused on a tribe of 15,000 pastoralists called the Hamar in the southwest corner of Ethiopia. The tribe is surrounded by political instability, drought, disease and malnutrition. A male-dominated culture shunned female equality and basic hygiene. The encroaching desert and closed borders mean the Hamar can no longer herd livestock as they once did.

Papas, with the eventual, grudging approval of male chiefs whom she cultivated over months, is working through a cadre of emerging female leaders on issues of literacy, human rights for women and girls, clean water, hygiene and sanitation, small-scale agriculture, a jewelry business and a Hamar-based trading system.

She spends about eight months each year in Ethiopia and four months in the United States fundraising and planning.

Living in extreme conditions, eating little and enjoying a rare shower with just a “trickle of water,” Pappas said, are rewarded by small progress, such as seeing women with a growing voice in village councils, earning money and leading education and health classes.

Rewarded with joy

“Joy comes when I apply the skills and confidence I gained during my career to the tangled issues of helping people help themselves in this remote land,” she said.

Pappas, who doesn’t take a salary, also has benefited from several U.S. AID grants. She uses incentives, such as chickens for families who agree to use new pit latrines away from the new wells and crops. Dysentery and related diseases are starting to decline. Women are able to spend more time raising small crops, learning, and less time walking miles to polluted wells for water.

“Before Lori came, we were worse off than the baboons in the jungle,” a Hamar woman told a Global Team publication. “We were sold into marriage, had no rights, no voice and forced to do all the work. Just a commodity to be used.”

Fallon, a big supporter, believes U.S. national security is partly rooted in our ability to help people in developing countries achieve a better life. Other Pappas supporters include a couple of dozen Rotary Clubs and a growing network of individual admirers.

Martha Paas, an economics professor, and Faress Bhuiyan, a developmental economist at Carleton College, have enlisted other faculty to help develop curriculum on the Hamar and grass-roots development. Bhuiyan and Carleton student interns are researching Global Team’s work, including extended site visits next year to study the model and results.

“Lori is a numbers person and quite capable, and she began collecting data early on,” Paas said. “Our students can use the data.”

 

HAPPINESS: Be kind as you celebrate Christmas


By Aliker David Martin

Today, give a stranger one of your smiles.  It might be the only sunshine he sees all day.  ~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Aliker uses Smart Board

How do you celebrate an achievement? It could be through a hearty laughter or dancing like the football stars celebrating a touchdown. While other people celebrate Christmas season by eating and drinking, I chose an act of kindness that would bring me fulfillment.

One of my best friends invited me over for Christmas with a fully paid flight. We met in Africa while he was an intern student of Notre Dame. I felt obligated to pass on the kindness. I decided to spend time in an elementary school visiting pupils with autism before they could break off for Christmas. I was greatly inspired by the world of possibilities in the lives of these children. Indeed, disability is not inability. My greatest sensation was seeing the children use Apple installed operating system in Smart Boards. Smart Board is an interactive white board developed by Smart Technologies. Relating and listening to these children gave me a strong sense of purpose. Any effort to meet our sense of purpose brings us happiness. Besides, I also treated my self in the evening to a great dish and some drinks. If you treat your self-kindly, it will reciprocate the gesture by bringing you joy and high spirits.

Having said that, I implore you to identify a sense of purpose this festive season and be kind. In Dalai Lama’s words, “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.  If you want to be happy, practice compassion” Give yourself a treat to find happiness this festive season. A good massage could be so rewarding to the body just like an act of kindness brings you inner joy and fulfillment.

Merry Christmas and a prosperous New Year

HAPPINESS: Christmas to a childless mother


By Aliker David Martin

God, If I can’t have what I want, let me want what I have” Anonymous

My children are your children

As a child growing up in Africa, the excitement in Christmas was in new clothes, shoes and eating the occasional dish of rice and chicken. Listening to the priest’s sermon today, the statement “Behold, you will conceive in your womb and bear a son, and you shall name him Jesus” captivated me. In my mind, I imagined, “What does Christmas mean to a childless mother? In my culture, the body of a childless mother, is passed through a broken wall for burial as a sign of bad omen while in America, it looks like a lifestyle. Childlessness causes low self esteem. Many childless mothers bear a great feeling of loss and poor health. Take a look at childlessness as talent. We all cannot have the same talent. I may not have the talent to sing just like someone may not have the ability or intention to have children. If you looked at childlessness as a sign of poor health, many people have been born with disabilities but it has not denied them achieving their life’s goals. In their minds, disability is not inability.

During one of my American fundraising trips, I met a generous childless donor. She told me she was too busy pursuing a career and when she was ready to date it was already late to have children. She says at first it made her very depressed. She later realized her passion and goal in life is to serve children in need. This has brought her a lot of joy and satisfaction.

This Christmas, the birth of Christ could mean the birth of a new passion and goal in your life. Prepare for it by opening your heart to kindness just as you prepare to receive the new-born (Jesus Christ). Olbert Schweitzer says, “The only people happy are those helping others” Therefore, your life’s mission could be different from bearing children. Childlessness should not make you unhappy but eager to find out your life’s purpose. Abraham Lincoln once said, “And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count, it’s the life in your years. Merry Christmas

 

 

 


Happiness: Change your attitude


By Aliker David Martin

Happiness is an attitude.  We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong.  The amount of work is the same.  ~Francesca Reigler


Happiness is an attitude

Our way of thinking is responsible for our daily fortune and misfortune. Last week, a friend told me a story of twins (Peter and Paul) who went to the same schools and pursued the same program at University. Since completing University, Peter has always got good jobs and Paul has always failed interviews. After an interview, Paul’s position was re-advertised and applicants were encouraged to apply. Out of rage, Paul told Peter, ”You know we look alike, why don’t you do this interview for me. I am tired of seeing short skinny men reject me during interviews. I know am good for the job but they just don’t like me”. Peter jokingly accepted and went for the interview. He excelled so much that the team leader said,” Paul we are glad that you re-applied for the job and performed better this time. We rejected you last time because; you showed a lot of attitude from the time you came in and during the interview. The way you carried your self and stood before us showed us that you might not be a team player. Congratulations, you have the job”.

Having said this anecdote, we learn three very important lessons.

First and foremost, your attitude towards others often determines their attitude towards you. Paul must have shown serious attitude for short people every time he went for interviews. Therefore, it determined the attitude of people at the interview panels.

Secondly, your attitude is contagious. A good attitude attracts good attitudes from others justlike a negative attitude; it influences the people around you negatively. Just imagine, why do we easily smile when we are near comedians?

Finally, your attitude can give you a winner’s perspective. During an interview, if all applicants have been good; a visible great attitude may give you an edge over others. Your attitude may make you view ideas differently unlike a biased applicant. So change your attitude and remain positive and you will find happiness in your life.

Talinism and Aliker’s Gold for the Day: Teach Your Children Well


December 1, 2011

Dr. Amos is one of my most favourite bloggers.In this article, Dr. Amos refers to my blog in his blog post in no better way I could have shared with you.Please enjoy his writing. Dr. Amos blogs on Mental Health, Psychiatry.

Talinism and Aliker’s Gold for the Day: Teach Your Children Well

Talinism and Aliker’s Gold for the day: “Teach your children the good qualities, teach your children to do good, teach your children to respect others.” Get the skinny straight from Talin Orfali at

Aliker’s Gold: “Just like in a kraal, the bull that is better fed wins its fights. In the mind are two bulls (thoughts), negative thoughts and positive thoughts. If you feed your mind with positive ideas, you reap joy and happiness and vice versa. In Africa, names have meaning. Those who name their children Komakech (I am unlucky), fortune elude them. Speak positively to yourself and to others and you will find joy. I learnt to tell myself how much I am loved and found happiness in this magic and I passed it on to my family.” Now visit the gold mine at http://happinessnest.wordpress.com/category/joy/.

By the end of the month, I’ll have completed a year of blogging on PostADay 2011 at WordPress. I’ve talked too much, learned a lot, made good friends, and learned to shut up. And it cost me nearly nothing. The best gift to get is the one to give–kindness. Pass it on.

Aliker David Brown, Humanism in Medicine, postaday2011, Talin Orfali, Talinism

About Jim Amos
Dr. James J. Amos is Clinical Professor of Psychiatry in the UI Carver College of Medicine at The University of Iowa in Iowa City, Iowa. Dr. Amos received a B. S. degree in Distributed Studies (Zoology, Chemistry, and Microbiology) in 1985 from Iowa State University and an M.D. from The University of Iowa in Iowa City, Iowa in 1992. He completed his psychiatry residency, including a year as Chief Resident, in 1996 at the Department of Psychiatry at The University of Iowa. He has co-edited a practical book about consultation psychiatry with Dr. Robert G. Robinson entitled Psychosomatic Medicine: An Introduction to Consultation-Liaison Psychiatry. As a clinician educator, among Dr. Amos’s most treasured achievements is the Leonard Tow Humanism in Medicine Award.
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Happiness Daily Quote


“Generally speaking, the most miserable people I know are those who are obsessed with themselves; the happiest people I know are those who lose themselves in the service of others…By and large, I have come to see that if we complain about life, it is because we are thinking only of ourselves.”
― Gordon B. Hinckley

HAPPINESS: Lessons of Faith from Steve Jobs


By Aliker David Martin

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.”
—M. Scott Peck

Jobless not Hopeless

Steve Jobs is the co-founder of Apple Computers with Stephen Wozniak. He died October 5th 2011. My guess is you are startled about Steve Jobs as a man of faith yet he is better known in corporate circles. The life of Steve Jobs was characterized by happiness and sadness. These issues help to illustrate his faith. Last week, a friend who signed up on my blog mailed me to thank me for the content of my blog. He confessed that he had been fired from his job and my blog is such an inspiration. This inspired me to write about job loss and happiness. My research led me to the life of Steve Jobs.

In our online chat I asked him, “Did you have a permanent job or worked on contract?” He responded, “My contract was expiring in a months time”. So why do we get shocked when we know some day, we will not have the jobs we have? It all comes down to fear. We fear unemployment and its impact on our dependants.  We fear uncertainties that lie ahead.

Certainly, Steve Jobs had this fears because he was human but Steve was a man of faith. Realizing that the opposite of fear is faith, Steve had faith in himself; he had faith in world providence and he had faith in his guts and destiny. While I listened to his commencement address in 2005 to Stanford graduates on YouTube, Steve says, “sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick, don’t lose faith”. Speaking on connecting the dots in his life he says, “you have to trust in something; your gut, destiny, life, Karma, whatever”. Steve’s message was on self-confidence to follow your heart even when it leads you off the unknown path because it could make the difference.

Having said that, John C. Maxwell a best-selling author and preacher says, there are a lot of things in life that are difficult to understand. Faith allows the soul to go beyond what the eyes can see.” He emphasizes that; “people of faith understand that when you seek to broaden your perspective and try to see life from a heavenly vantage point, everything makes a lot more sense. Believe that the best is yet to come by broadening your perspective through faith. Have faith that a better job awaits you. Your next job is just a step away.

Listen and learn from Steve Jobs